21st
When it’s not lonely or yearning, the act of waiting for someone can be exquisite. I guess this would be called ‘anticipation’, but that doesn’t quite nail it.
It’s a feeling of suspended animation but with the addition of consciousness. Like freezing the entire world but leaving your eyeballs free to toggle like a Kit-Cat clock. That is exactly how it feels.
I would tell other people to use lame instead of gay. I did that for YEARS.
“But it’s so disconnected from that meaning!”
I said.
I’m trying really hard to stop using lame. It’s going fine, but I still have to stop and think of another word that isn’t ableist. A few more weeks and I hope it will stop feeling ‘natural’ (habitual) to want to use it.
Same goes for crazy and insane.
Valenti’s Feministing stablemate, Courtney Martin, is currently in the running to be the Next Great American Pundit, with a column at the Washington Post up for grabs. On the blog and elsewhere, she’s been promoted on the basis that “we need more feminist voices in the media”.
But I think this misses the point. I’d like Courtney Martin to have a Washington Post column not because she subscribes to a particular philosophical framework, but because she’s an exceptionally good writer and analyst, who thinks about issues in a way that most others don’t, presents her arguments in a nuanced way, and is able to capture visceral emotional truths.
i would NOT like courtney martin to have a washington post column, because she thinks about her issues in a way common to many mainstream internet feminists, which is through a lens of white middle-class college-educated women. frankly, i think there are sufficient representations of that kind of feminism in the mainstream media - valenti appears to be the nytimes’ new darling, with the coverage of her wedding and the recent interview with her in the times magazine - that elide or entirely erase issues of importance to women of color, trans women, women with disabilities, and other women who aren’t exactly like courtney and jessica.
when we have this discussion of whether “feminists” should engage with the mainstream media, we need to keep in mind that the women getting the book deals, getting the campus speaking tours, getting the nytimes interviews and WaPo column auditions, are usually representative of a single kind of feminism that not only fails to include but actively alienates wide swaths of women and feminists. it is, essentially, mainstream feminism engaging with the mainstream media, and feels wildly irrelevant if you’re in one of the groups not included in mainstream feminist discourse.
the jaded hippy wrote a great post recently, reacting to a quote that a feminist from the 70s was shocked to see the struggles regarding intersectionality continuing in mainstream feminism, as “she just shakes her head and is all ‘I thought we worked through all of that years ago! I can’t believe people still aren’t getting it!’”
her response:
i think this is a really important point - and i see jessica or courtney’s engagement with mainstream media as continuing, basically, the “same old shit” that creates a saturation of the mainstream feminism that disregards intersectional issues of race, class, sexual orientation, trans status, disability status, etc… and thus harms women.At first I thought, “well, there’s always new people coming into the movement, they’re n00bs, they have to learn the ropes and they’re making mistakes because they’re n00bs and that’s what n00bs do”. *Dusts off hands* Done! But another thought followed it: “But WHY DON’T the n00bs of today start off with more information? HASN’T all this good work been done and useful knowledge produced? WHY isn’t it sticking?”
I mean, us, the generation of knowing how to use computers, and our younger siblings or children, growing up in a world that never didn’t have computers and video games. They know how to use these things. They learn very, very early on how to use this stuff because it’s all around them, it has saturated their daily lives.
So, why are the n00bs of today as seemingly woefully ignorant as the n00bs of forty years ago? That comes to my head as I puzzle about this? Because we don’t have that saturation of info, not at all.
What are we saturated in, growing up? For the most part? The same old shit. That’s what. For as long as we (womanists, feminists, anti-racists, socialists, LGBTQ activists, dis/ability activists etc. etc.) have been doing this work, something is preventing our hard work from becoming part of the social fabric.
I love when a C- student gets it, Part 2. (via thesmarttart)
First part (at the above link):
What I don’t think is right is how come the Founding Fathers are such a big deal when the first time they tried to write a constitution they cocked it up so bad that the country almost collapsed. I mean what they did was good and all, but they didn’t just get perfect overnight. The same guys wrote the Articles of Confederation and the Constitution, so why is the Constitution supposably all unfailable and shit. It’s not, because it had slavery in it and other bad things that got changed later on. So how about we find some new heroes that didn’t make a mess we’re still cleaning on 300 years later.
— Student on exam 2
I want to buy this kid a drink.
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i don’t much care whether or not you see the movie, but you should definitely read the book. the book is amazing and i fear a lot of what makes the book special don’t translate well to a movie, no matter how well done.
i was worried before i read the book. i felt like i should but i was frankly scared of it. i am knee deep in grinding poverty and i have enough horror stories of abuse and pain to keep me up at nights without going out looking for more. and i won’t lie - i cried. but it was a positive story. it was a story of growth and upward movement and having agency and, well, the triumph of the human spirit. and so i finished feeling good, feeling motivated, instead of depressed or ground down.
Thanks for this, definitely reading it soon.
The sexiest picture of the Spaced cast/crew ever. @simonpegg, @edgarwright & Jessica Stevenson, hatchi matchi!
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SEXY INDEEEEEEED. Thanks for this, tumblr.
Where do the lists of people come from and why.
Yes. Also, why Charlie?? The island needs a hobbit.
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Taste the happy, Michael.
Tastes kinda like sad.